A key distinction in a child or young person’s experience of a sexual trauma as opposed to a sexual trauma survived by an adult is that they are still growing.

Young people rely on adults and peers around them to provide a safe environment in which they can connect, grow and develop. A sexual trauma is an abrupt break in these connections, the effect of which can be devastating.

Research has told us that a trauma in childhood can alter the development of a child’s brain and chemistry, affecting their ability to learn and concentrate (DeBellis and Zisk, 2014; Edwards, 2018.). This is where interventions through social work, counselling and youth work are essential to re-establish the child’s connection with their world.  

The importance of peers

Pale blue text on dark grey background: "It's about letting go completely. As a group it helped us let go of stuff that had built up. Being able to sit and talk about stuff and be listened to was a major way to let go." Lucy, 15In adolescence, young people often have a desire to establish safe connections and share painful experiences. Being able to engage socially with peers of their own age and similar experience can be reparative and healing.   

Young people naturally form peer groups in order to support each other. We see this in schools and youth groups everywhere. The importance of these groups shouldn’t be underestimated. They provide an environment that nurtures and protects, much like a family. One study illustrated this when observing how children separated from their families during the London Blitz formed peer support groups to provide the nurturing that their absent families could not (Freud & Dann, 1951). When the Health Advocates (young people themselves) from the Be Healthy project ran focus groups for their Peer Support website, the other young people told them they sought out and provided support for each other on everything from exam stress to suicidal feelings without any help from adults.   

These ‘peer families’ are particularly important when dealing with the psychological impact of sexual abuse. Often a young person’s own family are not the best people to support them. This can be down to a multitude of reasons; it can be too painful for family members to deal with the trauma constructively or the abuse could be familial.   

Dark grey text on pale blue background: "People who’ve been through something similar can relate to me more on a personal level. It’s good to meet people like that. You don’t feel so alone and it takes away the sense of loneliness... Also I’m more confident at voicing my opinions now, even if it doesn’t match up with someone else’s. Before I used to just agree with what was being said by other people even if I didn’t!" Maisy, 18A youth worker or psychotherapist in a group context can create the ideal family model. This allows the young person the chance to develop a secure attachment (Bowlby, 1988) to the adult. A healthy attachment to a safe adult after a trauma helps the young person gain perspective on the trauma, thus the trauma becomes less overwhelming and they are able to start down the road to resolution (Janoff-Bulman, 1992). In addition to this, other young people with a similar history of trauma can act as siblings who are accepting and believe the experiences of the young person. These groups potentially provide a microcosm in which young people are able to rebuild reparative connections with the world, each other and themselves.

Why doesn’t everyone offer group work?

Some professionals have concerns about facilitating group work. Some also face barriers to undertaking group work in their roles, their organisations and in the sexual violence sector as a whole.   

Common fears about group work are that it may result in peer-to-peer exploitation, retraumatise or trigger participants and can lead to broken confidentiality when young people know each other outside of the group. It is true that all of these could happen through group work, but they are also risks that survivors of any age navigate every day. Unlike out in the world, a facilitated group can provide a safer environment where negative ideas can be challenged and support needs can be identified and followed up.   

It is important to recognise that working with groups requires a different skill set to one-to-one work. We should not expect someone with no experience to take on a therapeutic group or participation project, indeed it could be harmful to the participants if not managed well. But the sticking point is that if there continues to be a lack of support for existing staff to receive training, and a lack of prioritisation for these skills when hiring new staff, there will continue to be a lack of group work opportunities for young people who have experienced sexual violence. Services for survivors of sexual violence are often overstretched and underfunded. Some are forced to work on shoestring budgets and yet are able to provide some of the most valued support to survivors.  

Dark red text on yellow background: "Through our discussions, I’ve become more aware about society and the ways people can manipulate other people." Jessica, 16We have encountered some sexual violence services who are simply opposed to the idea of running groups with young people in principle. This can be the case at services where group opportunities for adult survivors or even for the parents of young people who use their service are offered. It begs the question, when professionals are risk averse and deny young survivors opportunities to work with their peers, is this actually protecting them from harm?

What about young people’s rights?

There are rights-based arguments in favour of peer-centred interventions.  Article 39 of the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child states that young people have to right to recovery from trauma and reintegration, specifically health, dignity, self-respect and social life. The key phrase here is social life. Supportive relationships with professionals, family and other adults are of course important. But for a young person to meaningfully recover their social life, they must be able to develop supportive relationships with people their own age. Amy, a Youth Adviser on our We’re All Right project has written a powerful blog about the importance of Article 39 you can read here. 

Yellow text on dark red background: "I’ve made friends and it feels like I’ve known people for years. I never thought I’d have met people like this." Lauren, 18Talking therapy directly addressing their experiences of trauma may not be beneficial to all young people. It also stands to reason that group work may not be the best route for every young person. Article 12 states that every child has the right to express their views, feelings and wishes in all matters affecting them, and to have their views considered and taken seriously. In order to express their views or make any decision, young people need to first be informed about and offered all possible options. A confident yes or no coming directly from a survivor can be a powerful sign of healing. When decisions are made for them and options limited by adults and professionals, it prevents young people from learning to stand up for themselves and claim their own rights.   

Conversations about sexual abuse continue to become more prevalent in mainstream society. We see them in the media, news reports, films and TV. Better understanding of the issues surrounding abuse means better care for those who survive it. However, it is crucial that young people do not get left behind. The challenges in creating a group for young people who have experience sexual abuse are significant and need careful consideration. This however, should not overshadow the benefits that can come from bringing young people together. Creating spaces for young people to meet and share their feelings and experiences not only combats the isolation that abuse brings but ensures that their rights are being met and their voices, that may have been silenced through abuse, can be heard, believed and respected.   

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Quotes used throughout this blog are from young people who participated in AYPH’s Be Healthy project. 

Jeremy Sachs is the Project Manager with Healthcare Professionals at AYPH. He also runs the psychotherapeutically informed support groups at SurvivorsUK for men, boys, Trans and Non-binary people who are affected by sexual abuse. 

Lindsay Starbuck is the Youth Participation Coordinator at AYPH. She led the innovative Be Healthy project involving young people affected by sexual exploitation and is currently running the We’re All Right project, which focuses on the rights of young survivors. 

De Bellis M and Zisk A (2014) The psychological effects of childhood trauma.  Child Adolescent Psychiatric Clin N Am.  23(2) 185-222 

Edwards D (2018) Childhood Sexual Abuse and Brain Development: A Discussion of Associated Structural Changes and Negative Psychological Outcomes, Child Abuse Review, 27(3) 198-208 

Bowlby, J. (1988). A Secure Base. Clinical Applications of Attachment Theory. UK, Rouledge  

Janoff-Bulman, R (1992). Shattered Assumptions: Towards a new Psychotherapy of trauma. New York. Free Press.